13 Things Your Matchmaker Won’t Tell You

Attitude is Everything

People can sniff out innate unhappiness. If you’re unable to find contentment in your life, perhaps it’s not the best time for you to date. It’s not up to a potential partner to make you happy. It’s up to you.

Wondering Where All the Good Men Are? Look Down.

Many of the women who sign up for my matchmaking service are hung up on dating someone taller than they are in heels. There are scads of kind, intelligent and successful single guys out there, dismissed because they’re shorter than five foot nine. Retire your stilettos and give these diminutive gents a chance.

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She Probably Wants You to Pay

It’s the 21st century and women want to be treated as equals in all aspects of life. That said, they still secretly like it when men pay on the first date.

Good Hygiene Matters!

Charm aside, if you smell like a gym locker or neglected to brush your teeth, the date is already over.

Attraction Can Grow

Especially backed by a brilliant personality. If you enjoyed someone’s company but aren’t sure you found them attractive, give it another go.

Don’t Text Too Much

Whether you’re dating online or through a matchmaker, don’t communicate too much via text or email prior to your meeting. You can fall for someone’s witty banter, but you won’t be able to gauge physical chemistry until you’ve met in person. Hold back a bit until then.

Don’t Look Like Clooney? Don’t Fret.

Women value a great sense of humour above a pretty face. My clients are far more likely to list Jon Stewart or Louis C.K. as celebrity crushes.

Be Realistic With Your Requirements

If your idea of a match is an athletic towhead with symmetrical features and a PhD in astrophysics who builds furniture and cooks gourmet meals in his spare time, you need to temper your expectations.

Listen and Ask Questions

Dating is about learning about someone.

Keep Your First Meeting Simple

Don’t commit to dinner and a movie with someone you’ve never met. Instead, hook up for appetizers at a nice lounge or take in a comedy show. That way you can extend your evening into the wee hours… or not.

Opposites Don’t Always Attract

They say opposites attract, but I find the best matches have plenty in common when it comes to values, humour and interests. Jay-Z and Beyoncé. Faith Hill and Tim McGraw. There’s a reason they work: they’re cut from the same cloth.

There Isn’t Someone for Everyone

I hate to say it, but there isn’t someone out there for everyone. Twenty-eight per cent of Canadians live in one-person homes. That’s a lot of single people in various life stages. But I think if you want it enough, show courage and put effort into yourself and your search, you have a better chance of finding your mate. 

Date With an Open Mind

As the mother of a client once said, “You always think you have a type until you fall in love.”

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