13 Things Your Mother-In-Law Won’t Tell You

By Maureen Mackey, Reader's DigestUpdated: Mar. 20, 2019

Regardless of your relationship with your mother-in-law, as Mother’s Day approaches, it’s a good idea to have a heads up on 13 things she probably won’t tell you – but that you should absolutely know.

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1. It Hurts To Be Downsized

I spent a couple of decades being the leading lady; now I have a character role.

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2. He’ll Always Be Mine

I know he’s your husband now, but he’s still my son.

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3. You Don’t Seem Very Confident

The littlest comment from me is taken as a criticism, so I’m very careful what I say around you.

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4. A Little Gratitide Wouldn’t Hurt

Every year, I send you a birthday present, but you never even pick up the phone to thank me. This year, I said, “That’s it. No more.” Yet look at me: I’m about to send another present. I guess that’s how I am.

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5. I Want What’s Best For Both Of Us

We mothers say to our children, “I want you to be happy.” And we mean that. What we don’t say is, “But I would like to be happy too.”

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6. I Know A Thing Or Two

I’ve gone through what you have, bought and sold houses, raised children, so why won’t you ask me for my advice?

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7. Every Visit Isn’t An Inspection

When I visit you, I’m just coming to see the family. I’m not coming for a “white-glove inspection.”

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8. I’ve Got His Number

When I really want to talk to my son privately, I don’t call your house. I call his cell phone.

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9. I’m Truly Appreciative

I’m so happy that you allow my son-your husband-to visit me on Mother’s Day. It’s a long trip and a big expense.

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10. I Have A Secret

I’m afraid that if I don’t get this right, you’ll cut me off.

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11. I’m In Competition With Your Mother

She takes you on vacations every year and buys things I can’t afford. All I can do is love you and babysit for you. I hope that’s enough and that it’s appreciated.

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12. I’m Lucky To Have You!

Whenever I stay at your house, you always have my room ready, my towels, everything. You do all the right things.

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13. You Know Me Well

I cherish the refrigerator magnet you gave me: “Age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill.”

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Originally Published: April 30, 2013