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This is the truth about some Dads. My son's Dad left when the youngest was 5mths old, because he would rather be drinking beer sitting on a couch, than lifting a finger to help. He changed jobs frequently, sometimes being without one for weeks and months at a time. He has never paid child support on time. He is thousands and thousands of dollars in arrears with child support. I loaned him personal money to buy a car, schooling, etc to better himself. I have never seen that money and that is over $25,000.00. I let him see them despite never being on time. Today he dropped them off with a $500 tattoo on his arm, but still thousands of dollars behind in child support. He spends his money on cigarettes and alcohol (I've never seen him drunk nor has his children), he parks in fire routes in front of the beer store, getting $100 and $250 tickets. My boys are in their early teens now. With today's faisco, I am done! Literally done! He rarely shows up for school functions, has never asked to see a report card, is not concerned about school supplies, school clothing, their financial or emotional or physical wellbeing. It is easy for someone to 'make' a baby, but true parenting comes with raising a child. This is a deadbeat Dad. There comes a time when a parent decides what values and morals is this inducing on their children to have them visit with a person like this. If someone cannot pay properly, then they make the effort to see their kids, play games with them, teach them how to throw a ball, offer support in ways other than monetary value. There is always a way to make a difference in a child's life. We've all been without work or in a position where our employment may be jeopardized. But there is always an option. So, personally, I'm tired of excuses. I've done it, I've found jobs when I've had to, even have worked two jobs at a time, I stay home, I don't spend my money on a babysitter, I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. My children are my priority. So, this is why women in my position have had enough of deadbeat dads and pathetic excuses. Get a job! Be there for your kids! Read them a story! Take them for a walk! Stop trying to get a date! Put out the cigarette! Put down the beer bottle! You've only got one chance to be a parent. Make an effort before it's too late! Because too late comes very quickly when it comes to being a parent.

Submitted by Sandra on Sun. 2011-09-11 10:09am

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I agree there are true "deadbeat parents" out there, the term deadbeat it's self is hate speach which is still illegal is it not? I am a "second" wife and I can tell you it is true...we live in poverty. My husband pays support for his 2 children, I have a child from a pervious marriage he is 15 years old non verbal not toilet trained, has severe eating difficulties and doesn't sleep more than 5 hours at night. He is autistic, he is considered severe on the spectrum. My son father died when he was very young leaving me with no death benefits of any kind, I never went to social services, I worked full time....until recently....because child support is tax exempt of course it doesn't show up on my husbands taxes and I live in Saskatchewan where disability benefits are capped I have lost all my governement supports for my son, which included child care. I have had to quit my job to care for my son, I am unable to find suitable, affordable child care. I had no choice....I worked to put food on the table for my family, and feed and buy clothing for my step children. Due to our "high income" the provincial government has left us in poverty.....after taxes and child support we have less than $24000 for a family of three to survive on plus feed and cloth my step children....that is for the whole year! My son needs diapers, nutritional supplements, medication etc..this totals $6600 per year! Child tax credit? Almost non existant! Please don't get me wrong, they are his children he should help to pay for them but the amounts are absurd! Undue hardship claims are almost impossiable to win, 4 years ago my son got sick and almost died it took months to diagnose....during this time he lost 30lbs, he was in constant pain, he lost the ability to walk, eventually he couldn't even lift his head! When his mouth started to continually weep blood the doctors finally admitted him into the hospital. We were there for months before a diagnosis was made, and it took a full year to recover during this time I couldn't work. My husband did the best he could to keep up the payments but fell behind, we ended up in "family" court. We tried to claim undue hardship and lost. My husbands ex-wife and her spouse have combind income far greater than ours the judge said "second families are no excuse to lower the required payment". I was stunned! Even at the expense of another child's life! I do not understand why child support is tax exempt, it is income.....if a recipent is trying to get social assistance it is considered income, if they are trying to establish credit it is considered income. Why then is it not taxable? "child support is there to support the children" I have been told by the Minister of Justice and Attorney General's office, well following that logic, my husbands income and everyone else who has children should not be taxed as well! I have filed a claim with Human Rights in Saskatoon hoping to get my funding back for my son, the provincial government is refuseing to deduct the required child support payments off of my husbands income tax assesment, I cannot work full time at $11 per hour to pay $9 per hour in child care! In the meantime we have an upcomming court battle yet again with the ex-wife. Although I see and understand her point of view, they are his children and he should pay......but the child in our home should not have to live without the basic necessities of life we are all entitled to! She doesn't need the $100 per month she is screaming about!

Submitted by exhausted on Tue. 2011-10-25 11:10am

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