Step 1: Question Yourself
Dr. Brian Baker, a cardiac psychiatrist and associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Toronto recommends asking yourself these questions whenever you feel angry:
- What made me angry?
- Why do I feel this way?
- Is my anger justified?
- Is it really worth blowing up?
Such evaluation helps you think rationally and control your emotions and behaviour, he says. If you think your anger is appropriate, decide what result you want, then make a plan and follow it. “But it usually isn’t justified in the great majority of cases, and you need to calm yourself down,” says Baker.